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Valentines’s Day Lessons

Children love exchanging cards and receiving candy on Valentine’s Day. However, I like Valentine’s Day for another reason. It’s a great opportunity to teach children a positive character trait they need for healthy relationships.

As you may have seen in your own children...most of them would much rather “get” than“give”. Valentine’s is a great time to explain to children that genuine love creates a desire to sacrifice for others. Pure love in our hearts always gives to others more than it takes.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." -1 Corinthians 13:4-7

We Are All In the Same Boat

We are all in the same boat. Most parents face power struggles with our children at times. Usually, the conflicts we have are because we want them to do one thing and they want to do the opposite. Some families are consumed with what seems to be an ever-ending argument over who is in charge.

In Philippians 2:3 the Apostle Paul said that we are to “let nothing be done through strife or vainglory, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than themselves.”

Contrary to popular psychology, I do not find that children who are pushing against authority struggle with low self-esteem. Most of their conflicts are about learning how to put others first. They think more of themselves than others

Teach Them While They Are Young

Teach them while they are young. The best time to teach character is when the children are still in the high chair. They have to learn the world does not revolve around them.

Begin teaching them as infants how to share, obey, honor and love. We can’t wait until they are old enough to stand before us; tell us what they want and when they want it.

We have to teach our children good character traits as toddlers to avoid a life of disappointment and frustration caused by their self-appointed entitlement. I hope one day our children will understand that getting what you want is not the greatest pleasure in life.

You will always want more. The greatest pleasure in life is giving to others. The more you give the greater your satisfaction. Your heart will be filled with joy and your character will grow with selfless giving. Let’s all try to give more. I know we will get a blessing in return.

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